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I would like to point out first that the unofficial abbreviation is done by Mr. Roland Edward Ambrose. The article below is partially inspired by him as well. I’m just the messenger with some of additions to myself.

So what is love? I know we have love for parents, brothers, etc… But, what about love for someone special? What is it really? The Bible itself doesn’t say much about this particular love, but it does warn us the folly it might lead us to if we follow it too close. This love can also be mistaken by lust, desire, and infatuation. So what kind of love is this?

Well put by my friend, Roland, he says Love is actually “logic over vicious emotion”. What this means that it is a fight between logical thought and the vicious emotions that pumps us from the heart.  Perhaps you are wondering why these thoughts oppose each other. Well, we can control our logical thought, but we can’t control our emotions. When we cry, we cry. When our funny bone’s tickled, we laugh like no tomorrow. This is what love should be.

True love is when one person feels for each other regardless of distance, time, or action from one to another. When he/she’s busy, you just wait patiently and ask what happened, and he/she tells the truth about it. When you are so far apart from each other, you find means to communicate instead of just ending before you leave. When one has hurt you, you take it nicely, wait for the other to calm down, and talk about it sensibly and with compassion. It’s when after one struggle, you do not go weaker for each other, but stronger instead.

Now logically, when you come to a disagreement so strong you just stop there. When distance is a problem you just stop. And when one has not enough time for another, they stop. But here’s the catch about true love: THERE IS NO STOP.  We would go through one trouble after another, settle it one by one, and reap the harvest we have sown. This is LOVE… this is logic over vicious emotion.

Now when I started sharing my life with Ju Li (sorry to put you in this, dear), we embrace the fact and we will be quite busy to spend time with each other. She can vouch for me that I told her that I would love her more when she knows what is important for her. I asked her “Between studies and me, which is more important?” She said studies. Thinking I might get upset, she got kind of surprise that I wanted that answer and would love her more when she knows what must be settled now more importantly than others.

To those who feel something for someone, please consider these options. For those who are not sure, do something that might show you how much the other loves you. Because that’s what love should be… Logic Over Vicious Emotion.

Got any additions? Oppositions? Comments? Please write me what you think to correct or even learn from you guys.

There’s this song going around, of which I have no idea what the name is… my bad :p

The chorus goes like this:

She’s the prom queen,

I’m in the marching band,

She’s a cheerleader,

I’m sitting in the stand

She’s Miss America
And I’m just the girl next door.

From what I can understand from this song (I personally listen to classics and orchestra more), Miss America gets all the dates, all the attention and the girl next door is just left alone.

What is this world becoming? Why do those girls get all the attention, even though the other girl could be (or is) equally interesting?

Okay, I admit the Ms. Popularity can be really stunning. In fact, to confess truly, I dated one last year during my holidays. She was stunning, beautiful, not to mention seriously comfortable on the eyes, I thought she was perfect… Till she opened her MOUTH! It was so dirty, it could make a sailor blush. And I do not mean her breath; I mean the language she uses.

Maintaining her for a day was also freakishly expensive. She insists on restaurants, cafes and Gold Class movies. Light conversation with her wasn’t much as well. She just kept on talking about her previous dates, sales in her favorite boutiques, etc. Now for those who know me well enough, I can converse well with almost everyone. But this one was a pain, not to mention she would F*** off everything she doesn’t like and screw everything she doesn’t believe in. she wants EVERYTHING her way, and she doesn’t give two shits about who disagrees, including her dates. I dumped her after that, and the next day, I see her going off with another fella. That hoe was definitely a gold-digger. And she was 16!

And guess what? Guys LIKE girls like that. I cannot understand that at all. They know how bitchy, expensive, couldn’t care less they are. And when they have no time for their “boyfriends”, the guys actually don’t mind at all.

Now here’s one date I had with The Girl Next Door. Well, she wasn’t in the band, she was in the same free-style sparring class as me, and I was her assigned senior. She wasn’t beautiful, but she was fun, easy on the whole anatomy (except when we spar), and I got to like her. I started standing around her more often, commenting loads on her small mistakes, till she looked irritated.

One day she picked a fight with me, so after class, we stayed back to spar. She was really pissed at first, telling me off as we spar. Now, being me, I reply her with jokes. That got her more pissed. We were finally wrestling on the floor till she finally got me pinned to the floor, and I admitted that I like her. Then apparently she told me that the feeling was mutual, and we became BFGF.

It was only till she moved to Australia we broke up, and I am glad to say that I feel not a single minute of my time with her felt wasted. She loves church, ministry work, sparring, slow classic music, philosophy, literature and expression of opinion. She also prefers mamak, VCDs, pasar malam, and clean language (with exceptions to some sick jokes we trade with each other sometimes :p )

So… why does Ms. Popularity get all the attention? And why do guys think that they have to endure such crap, or even thinks that they are all that?

To girls, no man should demand so much of you till you have to change 100% for him, but neither should they bend back till they almost break for you.

To guys, no girl should ever demand and expect you to bend till you break. But, neither should you stay stubborn nor think you are perfect for her and need not do anything nice for her.

Now to BOTH genders. You are there for each other, not as an ornament to each other. You are an ornament to yourselves, and you should be so good to yourselves till others come and admire you.

This is what real relationships should be built upon.

“One must give to take, giving also comes from taking. When one stops giving, and the other stops taking, the circle of love, trust, comradeship and friendship will cease to exist in both friends, family, and, especially, one beloved to another.” – Confucius

Any comments, additions, oppositions? Feel free to leave a comment. I’m open to as many as you can give me, as I too am back to learning to love another.