Helping Everyone Else’s… But My Own
Tuesday, September 27th, 2005Sorry guys, will update u my happenings, including the College ball I went, after this post. But, i have sumthin i like to write about.
I just come to realise this after 8 months of being in college…. Are relationships so cheap till they (couples) dun bother to patch up their probs, throw it in the bin and get another one?
Within 3 weeks, i have sat, listened counciled, and even played as messenger to 5 different relationships. Some freakishly old, some new. Some the girl’s fault, some the guys, MOST of them… are BOTH’s fault. And, quite frankly, I’m pissed that the jerks are the ones in a relatonship, and the responsible one remains single.
Take this one for eg.:
A met with B… got together well, became bf/gf… suddenly within less than 8 weeks, they start asking me whether they (he sumtimes/she sumtimes) shud break up or not. Why? dun understand each other, dun speak of themselves when they’re together, jus abt current events, shallow stuff.. gurl spend a lot of time wif a bunch of guys, guy always know the right thing to say to the girls.
That is a classic lack of communication, mis-communication, lack of trust, lack of sacrifice, and lack of maturity. The full package.
It took me hell… but they got together in the end. But 7-8 times they wanted to break up. i tried every technique on em… the talk it through technique, silent treatment, and a dozen more. I just helped over another one recently… But i swear the next time this happens, i will not help em anymore.
Here’s another one:
A and B are perfect for each other. But, whenever they see sumthin they dun like, they wont say anything.They’ll jus keep quiet and say nothing. Even if they talk abt it, it’s only in a passing motion. Talk abt daily stuff, have fun, but the probs, like alien material in your body, will fester and explode. Finally they want to break up… They give their reasons, they were surprised that they never heard of them complain about it ever. Again, this is the full package. They didn help another, inform another, or go deep with another.
This couple if they dont improve after countless reminding, i’ll let them go as well.
I DONT UNDERSTAND ANYMORE. ARE RELATIONSHIPS SO CHEAP TO SOME PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD? IF IT IS, PASS IT TO THE BEGGAR HERE.
Yes, i’m talkin abt me. Ever since my ex-gf had to leave for AUS, i have felt not love again from another girl. And love, if u have read my post "Here’s another riddle", love is like a poison which can only be cured from another source of it. I have been thirsting for it for a while now. Everytime I found a suitable one, she’s either taken, or wishes to be taken by another person. :’(
So here I stand helpin others, reminding them tht love in a relationship is like water. Though it might look cheap (free from whoever gives it), it is precious, and we cannot live without it. And here I am without any.
For those who are in firm relationships, I envy you. Keep it up, and I pray you will never need to see me ever. I haven’t told this to anyone, becos normally i dont mind, but I dont like hanging out with couples, especially if i dont have a date wif me to bring along. Firstly, I always feel out of place, like a backseat passanger in a 2 seater car. Secondly, sweet memories of me when i was hitched comes popping out, and i would miss it to bits. So keep it up, dont end up coming to me unless u cant help it.
For those who have probs, always look for a way to work it out first. Remember that in a reltionship, there are three things u need for each other:
1) RESPONSIBILITY: Your beloved gave up his/her opportunities to find others
just to be with you. The least you can do is e responsible enough to make it
last.
2) COMUNICATION: If you cant speak freely of yourself (your TRUE self) to your
"loved one", you shudnt have done anything in the first place. Never restrain
from telling the probs abt him/her that u dun like. For in every relationship,
there is accptance and there is:
3) SACRIFICE: If you love the other enough, sacrificing some of your habits (late night mamaks, hanging out long hours wif frens, burping comp [for me]) will be a singe. Please understand that u’re beloved has feelings, likes nd dislikes. Get to know em, and improve. Oh, and dun be fraid of them changing their habits for you. You’re worth it to them.
For those lookin for a relationship. You need to do 3 things before you start:
1) Find your true self
Know who you are, what you like/dislike, have a stand for urself. Only then
can you see a suitable gf/bf for urself.
2)Find God in your plan:
Other words, prioritise. Make sure you are not sacrificing too much to get
into a relationship. See to it, that it’s not for immoral or self profit, rather it’s
for love.
3)Find the maturity in you:
Love is like water… though freely given by those who owns it, no one can live without it. So, please be mature to take responsibility for each other. Never offend the other for pleasure. There are other thingd you could, which I’m sure with a bit of immagination, you know wat to do.
I end with a cry of unfair. But in the end, as Moses casted down all he had, I cast this down to God, that His will be done. Let love flow freely from your hearts, that u may turn dry desserts of despair and loneliness to paradises of happiness.
P.S. Comments please… I really wanna know what you think. And hel me ask others to check i out to give a coment. THX
